Marie Kondo Your Mind
By now we have ALL heard of Marie Kondo and her approach to de cluttering our homes. Although I have not personally read her book, through research I have come to find her approach is 2 fold; first asking you to put your hands on everything you own and ask yourself one question…”Does this spark joy?” If the answer is no then you get rid of that item. Secondly, once you have gotten rid of all non joy sparking items, she asks that you put all remaining items in a visible place, somewhere where they are easily accessible and can be put back with little effort. I have not tried this in my own home yet, but am a huge supporter of de cluttering, so Marie Kondo’s mantra resonates with me strongly and I look forward to adding this viewpoint to my current de cluttering habits.
But as I sat back and thought about her mantra for a while, I realized that it could easily be applied not only to the physical spaces we inhabit, but the mental space of our minds as well. Our minds are packed with loads upon loads of information. Not only do we create space for memories, to-do lists, phone numbers, addresses, and dates, but we also create space to hold beliefs think, process, and talk to ourselves. This is where I believe Marie Kondo’s approach can successfully come into play.
As I mentioned in my first blog post, I strive to help individuals eliminate any fear, guilt or shame they have associated with their current relationship with food and their body. And I believe there is a definite connection between what we feed our minds and what we feed (or don’t feed) our bodies. This is because what we feed our minds determines how we talk to ourselves, and how we talk to ourselves determines how we life our lives; what we choose to eat, drink, when/if we exercise, what we wear, etc. SO, I believe if we KonMari 1) what we are feeding our minds and 2) what we are speaking to ourselves we will begin to develop a more balanced and healthier view of ourselves and what it means to take care of ourselves.
Let’s go through an example. Let’s say you are scrolling through Instagram and see a post from a celebrity or spokesperson in a sports bra, nike shorts, “fresh” from a workout although her contoured make up face is perfectly intact. What do you likely begin speaking to yourself? Maybe thoughts along these lines?—
- “Man, I wish I had her abs. I need to workout more. My stomach is huge.”
- “Her legs are so tan and toned. I wish I wasn’t so pale.”
- “I could never pull off that work out look. I’m too fat.”
- “I need better make up. My face is so ugly (compared to hers). I can’t believe I am still breaking out!”
Then, as you go throughout your day you begin to make decisions based on that one experience. You may have a coffee date with a friend later that afternoon and once you get there you decide to get a black coffee and no snack (although your stomach is growling because you are hungry). Based on your Instagram experience you now believe you need to lose weight so cutting calories is a must. Honoring what your body is telling you (that you are hungry), your food preferences, and your unique body make up has been thrown out the window.
Instagram is just one of many ways we feed our minds. Facebook, Twitter, TV/movies, and radio/music are others. I encourage you to pick one of these avenues (the one you use the most would be a good place to start!) and ask yourself….Does what I am looking at spark joy? More so, does it spark peace? Or does it spark anxiety, guilt, shame and/or fear? If the answer is that it does not spark joy or peace, then it is not TRUTH and should be deleted. Now let me clarify, I am not saying that your entire Instagram or Facebook should be deleted. This is more about who we are following and what we are scrolling through. If you are following a fitness guru that makes you hate yourself and makes you constantly wish you looked differently then UNFOLLOW that person. If you follow a celebrity that always posts high fashion pictures that makes you feel un worthy in your current wardrobe, UNFOLLOW that person! You can still fan girl over a celebrity but not follow them on Instagram every day (hello Blake Lively!) By decluttering your social media and other avenues you feed your mind you are left with only life giving, cup filling soul encouraging content.
Next comes how we talk to ourselves. I encourage you to become more aware of how you are talking to yourself and once you catch an individual thought ask yourself, “Does this thought spark and/or peace?” Or does it spark, anxiety, guilt, fear and shame? If it sparks the latter, then do your best to throw that thought away. For example, if are telling yourself, “You will only be pretty if you get down to a size 2” and you are living in constant anxiety and shame because you aren’t a size 2, that thought needs to be thrown out!! The TRUTH is that health is about so much more than a number or a size. Beauty is about so much more than a number or a size. Unfortunately, this act of throwing out is harder to do because thoughts are harder to throw away than some old shoes that have been sitting in the back of your closet for 5 years. Thoughts have a way of coming back, reappearing. So this part takes commitment; commitment to continually catch your negative thought(s), challenge them with truth and change them to reflect truth.
If you feel like you may need help catching, challenging and changing your thoughts please contact me! I would be honored to walk alongside of you for that process. Otherwise, I hope this was helpful and inspiring! Let’s all channel Marie Kondo this week and begin de cluttering our minds!